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Welcome to "Beyond Mental Illness." This site was created to give advice to people who have a psychiatric history and now are working to re-build their lives. It is definitely possible for people with psychiatric histories to have meaningful lives with important contributions, and these pages are designed to give suggestions on how to do so.

There is minimal discussion of medication here. Medications can be an important step for some people, but they are only one step. Medications can help mitigate some symptoms, but they cannot do everything a person needs. The author hopes to give suggestions on filling other needs people with mental illness have.

Right now the blog has two composite characters. One is Tony, a young man who has recently been released from the hospital and is low-functioning. The letters addressed to Tony are here on this page.

The second character is Kayla, who has been stable for a while but needs advice on taking next steps and moving forward. The link to Kayla's letters is: beyondmikayla.blogspot.com.

The author recommends people interested in mental health consider reading the following books: http://beyondmentalillness.blogspot.com/p/recommended-reading-list.html.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

More on Intrusive Memories

Dear Tony,

I have some more insight on intrusive memories which I would like to share.

As I have said before, most intrusive memories are traumatic memories. But they are not the worst traumas in the world or even the worst traumas which have happened to me personally.

For me, intrusive memories are events or conversations which I cannot understand. I cannot fit the details of what happened into my comprehension or my belief system. Since I cannot make sense of the situation, I keep thinking about it. These memories become intrusive memories because I keep thinking about them. And I keep thinking about them because I cannot fit them into my worldview.

Often as my worldview expands and my understanding of human nature deepens, these memories begin to make more sense. I can see things in them that I could not pick up before. I may have made assumptions about the situation or the people I should not have made or avoided assumptions I should have made.

Gaining a better understanding of humanity and social situations as a whole is the most effective treatment. It is also probably the least satisfying. Gaining that overall perspective can take years.

In the shorter term, you probably need to address the memory directly. Try to look at it in hindsight. Go through it and try to pick up clues you might have missed. Did you misread the situation? Did the other people? Could there have been a legitimate misunderstanding? Was there anything you could reasonably have done differently? Was there anything you could have possibly have done differently?

You will probably need to go through the memories over and over again. These memories can be like wounds. They do not heal quickly no matter what you do. But if you keep working at them they should start to heal bit by bit.

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